New couples are often warned of the dreaded ending of the so-called “Honeymoon phase”, which is estimated to last from six months up to two years – bear in mind that every relationship is different! After this blissful period comes to an end, you may start to notice little changes such as making less effort in your appearance or with gestures, becoming more comfortable around one another, and feel as if you’ve exhausted all topics of conversation. These small changes can leave you desperate to rekindle the spark you once had, and maybe even make you question whether you really love the person you’re with. However, experts say that this feeling is completely normal in all relationships and often happens when couples begin to fall into a routine. It doesn’t mean that you don’t love them – in fact, putting a lot of thought into your relationship is arguably a good sign! Here are some ways to get the fire burning again.
When you first develop feelings for someone, you probably want to talk to them all the time and find out everything there is to know about them. When you fall into a routine however, spending all your time in conversation may not always naturally happen, especially if you have a busy schedule or are often tired. Try to designate a slot of time per week to simply talking. You don’t have to make it fancy but keep phones and other distractions at bay, so you really get to focus on each other. Think about anecdotes they don’t know about, or even tell them a secret – a known way to create a stronger bond. Be curious about the other person – there is still so much about them you are yet to learn.
Words of affirmation are many people’s major love language. The simple act of thanking your partner for something or reminding them what they mean to you can really form strength within a relationship. For others, acts of service will resonate more. You can show your appreciation to that person by helping them with something they’ve been finding difficult, or surprising them with a gift and a card with a thoughtful message inside.
Start from the beginning
Sometimes in relationships, you need to simply be reminded of why you fell in love with someone to begin with. By revisiting your past experiences together, you can embark on your journey of love all over again, which will help to reignite the spark between you two.
Date night is important
This is slightly different from designated talking time and requires putting in that little bit of extra effort. Depending on your schedules, try to commit to a regular and planned date night. This may be once a week or once a month but taking that time out to spend time with your partner outside the house is guaranteed to build a stronger connection. You may try something new and exciting together, such as skydiving – this will get your heart pumping and according to studies, will therefore increase your attraction and excitement towards one another. Additionally, you will bond over the experience and cement that memory in your brain forever.
If you’re looking for increased intimacy in the bedroom, why not dedicate date night towards putting on your favourite nightdress which will show your partner you still care about their attraction towards you and will inevitably help you feel sexy!
By following these tips you are not only guaranteed to rekindle the fire in your relationship, but also create long-lasting habits which are sure to make your connection happy and healthy!